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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of us have the incompetent spouse problem. You have to decide what’s important to you and do it yourself. Have a calm conversation about division of labor and then stick to it. Don’t do his part. Let the dishes pile up, etc. Then when it impacts you that he hasn’t done his part, explain why it sucks, eg “I want to cook dinner and I can’t because the dishes aren’t done and it is making me angry.” “I don’t want to clear your plate for you because it makes me resentful.” “I can’t sleep because you left the tv on.” Try to explain why it is bothering you instead of talking to him like he’s a particularly stupid child, even though he is acting like a particularly stupid child. You have to still talk to him like an adult and that means explaining your feelings instead of appealing to some theoretically shared standard for household behavior. [/quote] OMG why would you be married to someone like this? It's like having another child. No thanks![/quote]
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