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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]University administrator here; also a mom to an adult off to college. Don’t do this insane hovering. Man, the parents these days are the worst—especially those who insist on specific majors, courses, etc. Parents who check grades get overly involved in course registration, professors, you name it, and then elevate those issues “over” the advisor to me and how often we have to remind parents that it is ultimately up to their 18-21-year-old. It’s quite sad to watch. Plus, it is demoralizing for these advisors who literally love helping students thrive. And these advisors have incredible track records in guiding and supporting students through graduation and beyond. It’s impressive to watch.

I see college students forced into majors they don’t even want yet who cannot advocate for themselves. I worry about these adults who wake up ten years from now in careers they never wanted or, worse, out of a job because they lack any passion or drive in the field. 
Parents often insist on getting involved, and trust me; these parents become notorious. I’m honestly concerned about what parents are doing to this entire generation. 
Please encourage your new college student to embrace campus, utilize all the resources, and let universities and our excellent expert teams help your student to thrive. We may know what we’re doing. Doesn’t mean an absolute absence of a parent in the student’s college life, but it does mean ensuring the college student is in the driver's seat. 
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Hey, a mom here.  My kid goes to a state school and advising there  SUCKS.  I do not check her grades or whether she attends classes, but I watched like a hawk that she was on track to graduate in 4 years.

Not once, but twice during her senior year she was notified that she has outstanding requirements and she had to explain to her advisor how her classes fit.  Apparently both times her credits were shifted between various sections of the requirements in the ways that were disadvantageous for her and the advisor had to reshuffle them.

I am sure your school is exemplary in that respect, but when graduating on time means loss of revenue, things happen, right?  My daughter is sharing a house with 4 other people who started at the same time.  She is the only one out of five who will graduate on time, so excuse me, but when my next kid starts college, I will be a pain in your butt again.[/quote]

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