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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like DCUM often says that everyone gets 50/50, but when I look at the divorced, separated and never married families I know there is a huge variety.  I worked for many years a teacher of kids young enough that I knew the basics of custody, and it's not all 50/50. In my own family, my ex moved 1600 miles away.  We don't have 50/50.  I have niblings where mom chose to take very little time with the kids.  They don't have 50/50.

I think it's fair to say that barring major issues like abuse, or mental illness that are very well documented, if both parents live within a reasonable distance of each other, and both parents want as much custody as they can get, the court will likely order 50/50, so you might as well save your money and get to that place through mediation.  But "everyone ends up with 50/50" is a DCUM myth.  [/quote]

It’s not a “choice” Mom gets to make. You make it sound like custody is presumed to be mom’s unless she says otherwise. That isn’t how it works. The law says it is presumed to be 50/50 unless the parties negotiate something else. That is the problem with posts like yours that start with “I feel like.” Your “feelings” are invalid and irrelevant.[/quote]

How do you force a parent, in this case mom, to take time with her kids?

I am very confused that I have two examples, one where dad chose not to take 50% and one where mom chose not to take 50% and said I presume custody is always mom’s.  
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