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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most humans aren’t designed for sport sex, once the chemicals start flowing biology takes over.[/quote]

BUT it’s also possible to go through the whole cycle of

1. crazy attraction—>
2. normal level of attraction—>
3. familiar but still have chemistry—>
4. chemistry cools enough to be true FWB

all without getting serious with someone. You might end up loving the person as friend, but it’s not the frantic lusty stuff from the early days and you don’t *need* to be with the person.

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Going from being crazy attracted to someone your sleeping with to that decreasing to just a body would make the sec go from amazing to meh.

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OP seems to want the experience of sleeping within someone who is crazy attracted to him while expecting them to mentally partition that off and treat him as a body outside that. I mean, sure, if you like to play act at scenes.  But otherwise, at some point the other person will realize the jig is up and that the "more" they crave (and that is a key part of the emotional cascade of their attraction) is pure fantasy.  [/quote]

OP here . I didn't date for 14 months nor had sex with anyone post divorce. I spent that time reflecting on my past mistakes and also what worked. When I went back on the dating scene most of my friends especially the married ones strangely enough were encouraging me to just do hookups and some were even kind of envious. Right now I am not seeing anyone for casual hookups and frankly I will keep it this way. I'm not a narcissist, there is nothing special about me. For awhile I just fell in the trap of "living my best life with no commitments" and I realized that's not me. I'm also not comfortable switching partners at the rate I change my underwears. [/quote]

You answered your own question. You are not the type for casual hookups. People who are comfortable sleeping around with zero commitment are wired very differently from the rest of us. [/quote]

Exactly - OP, when you say your x FWB wanted more - what exactly did they want and what was different from what you wanted / what the situations were?[/quote]

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