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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you need to have a funeral home funeral?

3 of my grandparents had funerals at churches.  Those were really memorial services.  And they were scheduled a while after the deaths in order to facilitate family participation at low cost.

My family only does cremation.  And no open casket/viewings.

I believe this would save a lot of money.[/quote]

This is a Jewish funeral so cannot be scheduled later. Cremation is a no. It will be just graveside and the simplest coffin possible. It is still expensive.[/quote]

Our family is Reform and cremation is accepted now.  [/quote]

We are Conservative. I personally don't care what happens to me post death, but fil just buried his mom and certainly would never be okay cremating his dad.[/quote]

Unfortunately, if your family is determined to bankrupt themselves to adhere to religious customs, then they need to look to their religion for help. https://www.hebrewfreeburial.org/ for example, or contact the in-laws synagogue to find out if there are programs for assistance.

That also goes for senior care assistance. Parents can in fact turn into an endless blackhole for money if you don't create some hard and fast boundaries. In my parents case, I made sure the mortgage and utilities payments were made, and everything else, well, if i bank gave them another credit card that was the banks problem. They might have to move to an apartment. They might find this humiliating, somehow, but if the alternative is homelessness they will probably eventually come to their senses. Social security cannot be garnished for credit card debt. Ultimately, medicaid will be needed to give them nursing home care.[/quote]

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