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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Geez.  All of you folks saying this lady’s husband should not be going out of his way to help his father at a time where the FIL is facing the loss of his life partner and the DH is facing the loss of his mother. Good heavens. Have you no compassion? I’m sure you’ll be the first person on DCUM complaining about ungrateful children when your kids treat you the way you’re suggesting this woman’s DH treat his father.

When my mother was dying, I drove an hour daily to pick up my dad and drive him to the hospital to be with her. He was distraught but trying to stay strong to support my mom. He admitted he couldn’t concentrate and didn’t trust his driving skills. And I wanted to be with him, to talk about our grief and to support each other. It is terrible to watch a parent or a partner die.  That isn’t the time to be selfish or self-centered.  OP should think about the message she’s sending to her husband. [/quote]

OP cannot risk her employment. Nor can DH.

Get FIL an Uber account. Have DH say it's that and he can drive him on Saturday. You can't put your jobs at risk. She may linger for months. Alternatively, if you can hire a college student for daycare pickup that may be affordable? I agree the others should step up but they haven't and you can't control them. DH either needs a firm foot down re: weekday rides or to outsource driving or to outsource pickups. Those things you DO have control over.

I'd assume the vacation is unlikely and consider what you can do re: cancellations. [/quote]

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