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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- part of the problem is spouse prefers "fresh" food so is not open to making something the night before or over the weekend, etc. and is not overly fond of prepared foods. I've suggested meal kits but again spouse doesn't like the regimentedness. Spouse does "get food on the table" but usually around 6:30 while kids (prek and early elementary) get home around 5-5:30 starving (spouse does pickup). This makes that hour of the day stressful to me. I could of course feed snacks but then they tend to refuse to eat dinner.[/quote]

What time do you get home? If you were in spouse's shoes, what time would you have dinner on the table?

As far as making things on the weekend, it should not be an issue for him to make something ahead that you and the kids will eat. He doesn't have to eat it, if he prefers fresh food, but his job is to feed the family.

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OP here- ideally I'd have dinner ready pretty close to when the kids get home at 5:30. I understand this would either mean no cooking- e.g. a grocery store rotisserie chicken and premade cornbread (but I would have this in the fridge ready to go rather than driving hungry kids to the grocery store), or else I would make something simple earlier in the day that could be reheated (we both work from home).[/quote]

Is it a possibility to have him feed the kids at 5:30 and then you guys eat an adult dinner later? I liked PPs' ideas of having meatballs and things handy for the kids, or your husband could whip up something fast for them that they like. 
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Yes, this could be an option- I could ask spouse to just have simple kids food ready as soon as possible and I'm fine stocking up on Trader Joe's meals for myself. I feel like with a little planning we could do better than this and eat all together but maybe it's just not possible given the parameters.[/quote]

Assuming dinner is the biggest meal you deal with, what if your spouse dropped the kids off in the morning and you picked them up in the evening? Then instead of driving to get them they could work on dinner?[/quote]

OP here- this is a good suggestion. Spouse tends to work east coast hours (we are not on the east coast), but I'll see if they could swing this / if they think it would help.[/quote]

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