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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Watching a few post-divorce lives play out over the years, my anecdotal sense is that there is a burst of exciting energy and then it's a return to the grind of life.

I'm not saying the divorce was a bad idea. These people had relationships that weren't exactly horrible, but they weren't good and I'm not sure how fixable they would have been with any amount of effort. The women, in particular, went through a stretch where the novelty of new guys, not having to deal with the old guys, etc. was really energizing. But, after a year or two, they mostly stopped dating and the reduced income became a drag. [/quote]

Yep. Seen this play out several times recently in my neighborhood when the wife instigated the divorce [i]in order[/i] to play the field or was[i] caught [/i]cheating.  A year or so later, the loss of income and middle age with baggage isn't attracting the men they thought it would and they look beaten down.

On the flip side, a few women who had devastating things ---husband ran off with someone else, got someone else pregnant, abusive situations, etc...these women are thriving.  I have seen a few in healthy new long term relationships or just really top of their game in their careers and social lives.

That could be more a result of the type of 'person' and a little bit of karma mixed in.  Those that are just chasing the next thing and never happy so they keep pursuing new relationship energy, material things, etc. will never be happy. They will go back to their base level of misery and blame the 'person' or situation.[/quote]

In my case it was my XH with the midlife crisis and he was never satisfied with life always pursuing material things. He is onto a new relationship quickly and I do worry about my kids in that aspect but so far it seems ok. [/quote]

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