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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel so triggered by these threads because my husband is the one who has withheld sex at various times in the marriage and I genuinely felt at times that he was using it as a bargaining chip.  Where are all these husbands who want sex all the time and how did I end up with this rare bird who doesn’t??!? It’s really not ok to withhold and I feel bad for any man who goes through that.  Even if you are not at your happiest, once you start you can get in the mood.[/quote]

What was his reasons for taking sex away? [/quote]

He had tons of reasons- there is always a reason not to have sex if you’re looking for one!

In truth he has a lot of anxiety and can’t have sex if he is stressed, anxious, tired, etc.  And because of his anxiety he was stressed basically always- and this isn’t someone with a particularly stressful job or lifestyle.  And the anxiety, anger problems he was having had other implications and the marriage became lousy in general.

It took a long time and way too many discussions and marriage counselling for our lives and marriage to reach a healthier, happier place.  Now he is able to enjoy sex a lot more.   In fact, he wanted sex today and I didn’t really want to, but I thought “eh, why not” and I did it and got to O and relax and enjoy.  So sometimes, yeah, you just do it and enjoy and it’s not mind blowing or anything but it’s fun and nice.[/quote]

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