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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The question is most interesting when it involves a couple that intends to be a couple for life, and have roughly balanced (comfortable) financials so that it’s not about protecting one party or the other financially.

I’m very seriously involved in my sixties with a woman also in her sixties, each of us married once before for many decades.  I think the only reasons (minor ones) for us not to get married are 1) that we would probably blow $70k+ on a fantastic wedding, and 2) we like spending about five hours a day together but also like a lot of time apart and 3) we like not having to make any compromises about the physical elements of our respective homes 15 minutes apart.

I can easily wrap my head around the choice of cohabitating while unmarried, but being married and keeping separate houses is highly unusual/more odd (and I would quickly tire of explaining our choice to people).[/quote]

Many older couples do the "living apart together" model like yours. It can work if the distance between the residences is short, like yours. Gets harder when there is a longer drive time, especially as the couple ages and driving becomes a challenge.

IMO the biggest reason not to marry at that stage of life is often the adult children and grandchildren.  Like it or not, inheritance and long-term care issues come into the equation and can be a big challenge.

Adult kids love it when their older parent has a spouse/partner that is looking out for them, caring for them and being a companion.  But there is typically very little loyalty to that second spouse when parent dies or is fully incapacitated. I've seen elderly second spouses (late 70s & 80s) get kicked out immediately upon death of the spouse, due to home being part of adult children's inheritance.

Don't get married, ALWAYS keep your own home that you solely have control over, and don't give a damn what other people think. [/quote]

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