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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't read the whole thread, but I have a difficult sibling who I would like to maintain a relationship with but also need some boundaries. Texting is your friend. You do not need to respond immediately (or ever if the text is rude). Phone calls can go straight to VM and be dealt with when you feel like it.[/quote]

Might I suggest email instead? The hoarder in my life has some OCDPD qualities and would text over and over if I did not respond right away. You should not have to silence your texts. Emails are quieter. You check when you are in the mood. You also have a written record that's easier to print out if the person flips out and says she never promised to move the stuff.[/quote]

Yes, whether text or email, better to have as much in writing as possible. And include other siblings, if any.

I had to take a relative like this to court because of an estate/trust matter. She tried to tell the judge that I was lying and that she had never said certain things, but I had printouts of months of emails and texts in which she had made the statements she claimed were lies on my part. Bonus, the judge got to see how mean-spirited and nasty she could be in the texts and emails, in addition to the dishonest actions she was actually in court for. 
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