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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pre-kids, on a 3day weekend I'd have taken off either Friday or Tuesday to stretch to four days, and gone to Mexico or Hawaii or Miami or somewhere. I'd have eaten amazing meals on the beach, danced until 2am, gone to a spa, done yoga on the beach, all weekend.

But now I have kids. Yesterday my kid had a meltdown because she didn't like her ballet bun. Then we went to brunch with two small children and then a 4 yr old's birthday party, before DD had a sleepover with three friends. We were up at 7am to work out and get dressed before making an avalanche of pancakes, eggs and cut up fruit. When one girl's parents arrived to pick her up her little sister darted upstairs and hid and four adults spent 15 minutes looking for a 5 yr old.[b] Sorry - I'd rather be in Mexico on the beach.[/b] [/quote]

+1. I am happy for people like OP. Because to me child rearing is drudgery. Many people feel like this and the proof is that you have to pay someone to watch your child. I love my children but do not think feeding them, changing diapers, carpooling, disciplining, and attending kid birthday parties is fun. If I didn’t have kids then this weekend I would have gone skiing, enjoyed nice restaurants and got plenty of sleep. Still glad I have a family but can’t understand someone who really thinks having kids is fun. I’m sure if you asked a woman in 1850 if child rearing is enjoyable she would have thought it was a dumb question. It’s like asking if working in the mines is fun. [/quote]

Maybe I enjoy what you think of as drudgery. I love the joy in the mundane every day activities like walks in the park chatting with my kid as we make dinner together, watching her play with her toys in the bath, baking cookies and reading books together in bed. When they were younger I also really liked breastfeeding and felt so connected.

In contrast, I generally don’t like what is typically seen as fun stuff like boozy brunches, skiiing, staying up late and partying.  [/quote]

I’m with you. I like the mundane stuff. I have friends without kids and while the traveling and fancy dinners they do look great, they enjoy it much more than I ever did. Most of the time [b]I’d genuinely rather spend a low key weekend[/b] with my kids than be hopping on a plane or out late at a dinner. [/quote]

Can't wait until we can have lowkey weekends with the kids! Our little boys need so much activity and stimulation. Not super fun in the winter.[/quote]

Pp here, I feel you. I’ve got 3 little boys and it’s a lot of energy and chaos so my version of “low key” is probably not in line with most peoples. For me, I think it’s a personality thing where I 1. Am  introverted 2. Have never been that adventurous and 3. Am very patient and enjoy a lot of homemaking/caretaking tasks. I totally get why someone else would not be into this stage of parenting, it is a lot!

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