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[quote=Anonymous][quote]...This is the situation with my father, and it gets worse as he ages further. He’ll never see that people don’t enjoy these conversations. My mother is worse. Her narcissism is mostly around culture and religion. She’s also over-the-top anxious and has needed meds all her life but of course, everyone else has been the problem because they just won’t agree with her that the world is a dreadful place. She never accepted that most other people do not accept her fears, and that is where she’s often butted heads with my DH because he refuses to agree with her....[/quote]

You said in your OP that your DH has had some 'awful spats' with your parents.  If they're because of what you wrote above, I can see why your DH finds them intolerable.  Normal people recognize when they're in conflict territory with others and move conversations in a different direction to avoid conflict.  Insisting that someone agree with you or expecting the to listen to stories where you're always the hero because of your insecurities would be tough to endure.  I suspect, as others have pointed out, that it's a lot worse than what you are describing.

I wouldn't want to spend time with your parents either.  Rather than accommodating their anxiety, insecurities and boorish behaviors, you should have established boundaries like your DH has.  [/quote]

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