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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is why everyone feels the boomers are so selfish they live so long and then instead of using the wealth they took from their children for inheritance they burn it up in elderly care[/quote]
wtf? What do you expect elderly people to do?  Kill themselves so you can inherit their money?

Now, that's disgusting.

-gen xer with elderly parents who need care.[/quote]

Right? I feel like this was an elder millennial. Or just some pyscho. Chilling.[/quote]

I don't know. I'm a 55-year-old Gen Xer dealing with my mother with dementia. While I don't have that same sentiment about inheritance, I do agree that it just doesn't feel fair that my life revolves around her and my in laws. Even beyond the care part of it, just every holiday, the guilt trips over whether or not we spend enough time with them. I mean, at what point does a life become your own. Both my mother and my MIL lost their parents by their early 40s. They have no clue what this feels like. I am so depressed that I can't have a life of my own, probably ever. I will be pretty old by the time they die with no good years left for myself. It is really really depressing.[/quote]

I’m right there with you.  After my dad died in 2015 my mom latched onto me as her person.  She was already showing mild cognitive decline then and is now mid-late stage dementia with a host of physical issues.  She’s been needy this whole time but the  last 1.5 years of my life has been dealing with varying crisis relating to her health.  I’m an empty nester now but I’m not.  The nest just got filled by my mom.  Leaves little time and energy for anything but her.

I think our kids are going to have it so much easier as we all deal with this and make whatever efforts we can to ensure our kids don’t have to deal with the same issues.  I met a woman in my mom’s rehab place who was in their long-term care side.  Not much wrong with her but she said she intends to die in that place because she doesn’t want to burden her kids.  [/quote]

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