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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the illness was that long, some mourn along the way and when death finally comes, it is a relief and release.  It happens as people process loss differently. [/quote]
Yes, it's anticipatory grieving and the surviving spouse is further along in the process than if the death happened suddenly. [/quote]

I am the OP.

I can understand this. My cousin had been diagnosed with a progressive illness around 1.5 years before her death. I suspect she had been feeling unwell and was struggling with gradual physical decline for some time before her diagnosis.

The first wife of my cousin's husband went through a similar ordeal before she died.[/quote]

I think you should focus on the things you said about how he took very good care of her while she was declining and dying and leave it at that. That's all that  matters to your cousin, because now she's no longer here and she doesn't have feelings either way about his new friendship/relationship. Why should you? He loved and took loving care of your cousin. He's a good guy and he's not long for this world and like most men - especially those who were happily married - he doesn't want to be alone, he wants to be loved and cared for. Since he's lovingly cared for two wives as they declined and died, surely he's earned the right to have someone lovingly care for him as the same happens in his aging?[/quote]

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