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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just have the girl put out a small spread and be done with it.

I agree it would have been poor manners if they asked for an organized cocktail hour after you’d said you weren’t planning one. But it doesn’t sound like that’s what happened here. Candidly, I think it is a bit rude not to do anything, particularly if that has been the daily cadence throughout their trip.

A proper cocktail hour is great for transitioning from daytime activities or work into the meal. It gives everyone a chance to socialize and develop an appetite. And it’s more inclusive in terms of participation and conversational subject matter than after dinner brandy/whiskey and cigars, which generally excludes the women and can involve a bit more blue language. [/quote]

For goodness’ sake, it’s FAMILY visiting and they’ve already been there five nights. Are you like this when you visit family? I HELP when I’m a guest at my sister’s house or my parents’ house or my brother’s house or my IL’s house. I do not sit around for a week expecting to be served. After about two nights of “hosting hosting,” it’s time for family guests to get off their duff. At the very least, MIL could have asked, “I’d love some wine—would it be OK if I set up some cheese and crackers and poured some wine? Can I get you something?” Like, honestly. [/quote]

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