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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of people will tell you to mind your own business. Personally, I think you should bring it up. I would with my sister. It would be different if she wasn’t married and saying she wanted to have children. Some people just don’t pay attention and understand that fertility issues are real. So many famous people have kids later in life so it makes people think they can too.[/quote]

Do people really think that someone who genuinely wants children waits to have them just they saw some celebrity postponing pregnancy?[/quote]

My sister waited until she was 37 to try to have kids. Her husband took a while to decide he wanted to get married - so it wasn’t the same situation. But she was really surprised when she couldn’t get pregnant. Like shocked. She thought she’d have no problems. She’s very smart and successful. You’d be surprised what people don’t realize with fertility. [/quote]

Yes, she might have been shocked to realize she was having issues. [b]The point I'm trying to make is that, not matter how clueless you are about your fertility, if you're ready to have kids and want them, you'll try having them.[/b] If you're postponing motherhood you're probably doing it because you're not very interested in having children or there is something else going on in your life that makes having children a bad idea.   [/quote]

This isn't true for everyone - I never felt "ready" to have kids but we just went for it. I know a lot of people that never really felt ready.  It may help OP's sister to know that. And I think the MYOB posters are being a little rough on OP. This isn't just some acquaintance or a cousin, but her sister. Can't she speak openly with her own sister?[/quote]

Plenty of people have kids when they aren't ready, but that's not the point. The point is that those who are ready and want children don't wait any longer unless there are some medical issues. Now, if what you're suggesting is that people should have kids even when they are not ready, I have to disagree. That might have worked for you but it has caused problems to many other people. If the sister is not ready, assuming that this is the issue and not a medical problem, there's zero reason why someone who's not gonna be involved in raising or supporting that child should be openly talking to her about childbearing.[/quote]

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