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[quote=Anonymous]I was the golden child and my sister the scapegoat. She got pregnant at 19 and I moved far far away for college and stayed on another coast for 25 years. That saved me. I spent my 20s and 30s relearning how to treat people and thought I had made a lot of progress. Then I moved back home last year; thinking it was all behind us. Nope. The positive side is that I saw mom is a covert narcissist and that is where the dysfunction stems from. I wasn’t living up to her expectations (being her best friend), saw her shenanigans/manipilations what they are, and established reasonable boundaries. She isn’t speaking to me. Since I was the golden child, I also get the special role of being her parent (in her mind). So she is pouting that “mommy” isn’t giving her what she needs. I will say that as a golden child prior to therapy, I had absolutely no idea about my atttitudes and behaviors. Once I realized it, it was like a brain fog lifted. I am grateful to live in reality, even though I’ve essentially lost my mom.[/quote]
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