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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why most people don't get along with their in laws(FIL, MIL, DIL, SIL, BIL)?[/quote]

First off, it’s a forced relationship via marriage.

Second off, most people try to be civil and respectful.

Third off, everyone’s family and culture has their own norms. Some “norms” can be downright terrible and abusive, or driving by inherited mental disorders.

It takes a mature person to look at their family of origin’s “norms” and pick and choose what to keep, what to discard, what to change. And what’s downright wrong. But an adaptable, growing, mature person does just that everytime they meet someone.

You are your experiences. 
You learn at home age 0-18 plus as school and from coach’s and from friends families. You realize there are other ways to doing things and are fine with that, adapt some as your own. You have roommates, significant others, coworkers, where you learn more and more.

[b]The problem is the people set in their ways who never learn or grow or adapt. They are very difficult to live with or spend loads of time with. [/b][/quote]

Exactly!  To the bolded, I'd add people who are not only set in their ways but expect others to conform to their norms and act out when others don't. [/quote]

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