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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes. That is the expectation in my culture which doesn’t throw grandmas off of trains like Americans. (saw that movie when I first got here and it stuck.)[/quote]

Good luck with that if you are raising your kids in the US. My in-laws, not US born,  viewed their children as their forever meal ticket. With that they had no money for retirement and now have a daughter who supports them out of obligation, but resents and hates them. All of this has created a huge rift in their family and a great financial stress on their children. Also didn't help that because they were so focused on their kids doing well in order to support them they pushed them too hard and had no real loving relationship with them. I believe this is why their kids feel obligated to support them due to cultural expectations, but not out of genuine love.

I hope I never have to rely on my kids to take care of me. If they want to out of love, great, but I plan on having the finances in place to take care of myself. [/quote]

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