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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For people who say they can't imagine someone else raising their kids...do you think that your working spouse isn't raising your kids either?  I get what you're saying- that you want either yourself or your spouse caring for the kids rather than someone else during the day, but to say that daycare is raising your kids...well, that means that the partner who works isn't really raising your kids either, right?[/quote]

I see it as there being many facets to raising a child. There is the overall responsibility of raising a healthy, happy, independent child into adulthood. Part of that requires finances - therefore working is part of raising a child and he takes on more of that aspect. There is all the decision making that goes into raising a child and we are both equally part of that. There is creating healthy relationships and a healthy home environment and we are both part of that. Then there is the hands-on raising of the child, the day-to-day work to support growth and development, to create socially, emotionally and physically healthy children, the thousands of little interactions that shape who they are and who they will become and as a SAH parent I do far more of that than my DH - he only chips in in this area in the evening and on weekends. While we both instill values, it is the hands-on part and how I (as the one taking that on) react and respond that reinforces those values. Then there is the caregiving aspect (eating, toileting etc) and I do more of that as well simply because again he is only home evening and weekends. It works for us. He trusts me to do the hands on part. We talk about how the day went and he gives input into how we could approach or address something differently. I trust him to do the financial part. The rest we do together.[/quote]

I'm the poster who asked this question. Thanks for giving a sincere response; I learned a lot.

FWIW, I know many people will disagree with me, but I feel for uor fmaily it's better to have someone be there with the kids after school so in a year, I will go part-time and be home in time to pick them up from school.[/quote]

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