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[quote=Anonymous]My older child was in daycare 2 days a week.  It was a highly regarded, well known daycare with a very long waitlist.  I spoke to several parents with kids there, and I spent the first day there with my son, observing everything, before deciding that I was comfortable leaving him there.  All was good for a year or so, until one of the caregivers abused a child (it was a widely known incident, in the press....some of you probably heard about it). I wasn't comfortable keeping him there any more, and the incident took the wind out of my sails as far as finding another daycare; I didn't know what more I could have done to vet the place.  It was around this time that I became pregnant with #2.  My husband's travel schedule was becoming fuller and fuller, and it became clear that the easiest solution to our childcare situation was for me to stay home, which is what I am currently doing.  We don't need any income from me, and my husband is fully supportive of the arrangement; in fact, he was the one who first proposed it.  But I don't love it.  Being around kids all day stresses me out....but not as much as worrying about childcare and getting everything done when my husband is travelling and my hours would be wild n' crazy, too.  It's boring to me.  I SO wish I could enjoy it, but I don't.  I've just taken the hit because it's the best fit for our current needs.  It drives me crazy when I read people suggesting that having a mom home all the time is the best thing for all kids.  I grew up with parents who both worked full time, and I never wanted for love, attention, a moral upbringing....and I never wished my mom could be home all day.  It also drives me crazy when people toss around, "get a job!" to SAH parents, and imply (or outright say) that SAHers are lacking in some way for not working for someone else and pulling in an income.  There are lots of ways to find fulfillment in life, contribute, and "be interesting." Thinking that everyone should do things the way you do is a bit of a provincial attitude.[/quote]

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