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[quote=Anonymous]OP, here’s my experience from my neighborhood, so you can understand what happens if your DH isn’t allowed insides and your MIL won’t agree to just leave.

My next door neighbor was in her 70s or 80s and was of fairly sound mind. She was a bit of a collector. But then she had an injury and was hobbling around for a bit. And before anyone asks- she has a grown son who voiodnt or didn’t help but visited often, and she started to become really standoffish with neighbors. So we tried to help but couldn’t.

I think it was hard for her to put stuff away and eventually hard for her to take trash out or walk around the piles of stuff she couldn’t put away. Her collections (mostly seasonal decorations and small collectibles) started to be visibly messy to me as the next door neighbor- instead of storing away things neatly in the shed after each holiday, she piled them next to the shed. And piled things on windowsills and tables.

From what I heard from neighbors, she had another fall and that’s when things just fell apart mentally and physically. She couldn’t manage repairs at home and wild animals started to break into the kitchen and her solution was to put locks on her drawers rather than secure her exterior door.

Finally she fell and got trapped under a pile and it took hours or days for her son to realize what happened and get her to the hospital. She went to a nursing home and died not long after.

Her 3-4 years of falling behind on chores and trash resulted in 8+ dumpsters being removed from the house. It had to be taken down to the studs and the subfloor had to come up. Luckily it had appreciated significantly, but it was still a disaster.

OP, I hope that you can negotiate with your MIL and find a better way than what I described. I watch Hoarders on A&E and I wish they could give you one of those kind intervention professionals to help you all. Good luck.[/quote]

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