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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are currently in divorce mediation and the behavior of DW is just strange or maybe I am the weird one. She asked for divorce a year ago, and I initially suggested couple therapy, but she declined and just wanted to divorce ASAP. So, we are currently in mediation and things are going well. Please tell me if I am wrong to feel this way but, in my opinion, while divorcing couples do remain "amicable" I don't think daily interactions should go on as if nothing is happening in the relationship. For instance, she still texts me random stuff (funny text messages, sexual jokes, etc...), she calls me and tells me about her day (like last night we were on the phone for 50 mins). We have not had sex in over 7 months, we are sleeping in separate bedrooms. Basically, I am trying to distance myself from her because she no longer wants to remain married to me and the only reason, I have not pushed back on her acting the same way when our marriage was working is because we are in mediation (going well so far) and I don't want to show anger around our kids in the house.

This morning she comes into my room wakes me up and tells me about a book that she is reading about ADD and she thinks she has ADD. Some days she is in an extremely bad mood and lectures on all my shortcomings (she is divorcing me so why is she still lecturing me?). Other days she tells me she knows her worth and can't wait to be divorced and a few hours later tells me I will meet someone great. Folks what the hell is going on with this woman? Is this how some people behave during divorce?

My only suspicion is that perhaps she already has someone lined up and she will be that person when the divorce is finalized. Honestly that will be the best-case scenario because then I my only interaction post divorce will be related to the kids.

As far my mental state, I am doing everything I can to remain in good health and spirit. I am working out again, riding my motorcycle, hiking etc. 
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OP, it sounds to me like your wife wants to divorce but remain friends and keep everything more or less the way it was, except for not being married.  I'm a little jealous, actually.  My (now) ex-wife moved out and went more or less radio silent about midway through the mediation process except for questions about the mediation.  Once that was done, she almost entirely stopped speaking with me or responding to e-mails.  I miss the conversations with her more than I miss being married to her, frankly.  Ideally, we wouldn't have gotten divorced at all, but I'd take "divorced but still friends" over shutting off all contact any day.

So maybe be glad for small favors, I say. [/quote]

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