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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In Europe married women with children just accept that their husband will has a side girlfriend to take care of his needs. [/quote]

Yeah OP sounds incredibly naive and short sighted. I mean she said their marriage has been rocky and distant for a while … and since YOU aren’t having sex with him, what other explanation could there be? What makes his (completely obvious!) affair suddenly divorce worthy, when otherwise you’ve been just fine staying in a rocky distant sexless  marriage? [/quote]
Ignore these bozos.[/quote]

The bozo kind of has a point, though.  Posters frequently describe how surprised they are at an affair despite their marriage being distant, troubled, sexless, or some combination for months or years at a time.  And I get it, you feel your vows should preclude this behavior, but people are also human and the attention and affection of another human being in the midst of a miserable marriage just makes you feel alive again.[/quote]

Oh stop. Many who have posted prior were having regular sex with their spouses. We had a very active sex life.  Lots of wives are pregnant too and it wasn’t immaculate conception.[/quote]

I know that- but that’s not OP.  She describes her marriage as rocky for awhile.  That’s not an excuse for her husband, that’s just the unfortunate reality that a lot of people feel entitled to step outside the marriage when things aren’t working for a long period of time.[/quote]

DP, but what makes you think rocky translates to sexless? It’s possible, sure, but not certain. Emotional distance isn’t the same thing.[/quote]

I don't think people necessarily have affairs because their marriages are sexless.  But if the marriage is bad on some level, it's more likely.[/quote]

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