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[quote=Anonymous]So my parents are divorced and have been for almost my entire life (I only have a few memories of when they were still married). My dad has three sisters. His parents gave him EVERYTHING because he was the only son. I do not think that parents are good at allocating money or that they're fair. This is horrible sexism and normally when someone is cut out of the will, it's a woman in favor of a man. There's some misogynistic assumption of prior generations that a daughter is going to be 'taken care of' by her husband.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I guess I would see giving my children (her grandchildren) money is essentially giving me money. I’d be ok with it and happy for my kids.[/quote]

This. I am estranged from my parents but would be fine with this. I don't like them using an inheritance as a dangling carrot and excuse for them to treat me like sh*t. So if they think that cutting me out of the will and bypassing me and leaving stuff for my kids is punishment, it's actually a relief.[/quote]

I'm estranged from my mom. I have one sibling - a brother. He has never been married and has never had children. If she give everything to him, I expect I'll eventually inherit it when he dies. She'll probably give half to him and half to my kids and zero to me. Originally she was going to do 50/50 with my brother and I but I have no doubt that the amount I would have been allocated is now going to my kids. I'm okay with that. My mother absolutely considers money as love. She doesn't love me and in many ways hates me. Our relationship is over and she doesn't get to have one with our kids either. She'll likely never see any of us again. I used to be sad about this but at this point it's just a matter of fact. She hates everyone that's LGBT and I'm in that group. She is a racist, homophobic, transphobic bigot. My children will never be exposed to her hate and bigotry. She's never going to tell my children that gay people should be left to die of AIDS without treatment or that black and white people should not marry as I was told when I was growing up in the 80's and 90's. It's okay to be nice to black people but you should never marry them. That's just WRONG. I will never. Ever. Ever. Allow my kids to have exposure to her bigotry. [/quote]

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