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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]False. They can learn to overcome temptation. I have.[/quote]

How did you do it?[/quote]

As a teenager I turned to drugs to distract from life dissatisfaction and loneliness. In college, I swapped drugs for men. Somehow I found that brief affairs with attached men were easier because I’m not good at deep, romantic emotional connection.

I’ve always blamed ADHD for my emotional disconnects, but who knows really. I’m a great mom and very well connected with my child but romantic connection just doesn’t do much for me. (My brother is weirdly the same way, so maybe something with our upbringing? I don’t know.)

I’m not particularly happy in my marriage (it’s my 2nd), but feel determined to make it work this time.

Ive learned that when DH and I are going through a rough patch or I’m generally unhappy that I need to spend more time with:
- myself (yoga, walking, reading)
- female friends
- an older, 100% platonic male friend who is also a father figure of sorts
- remembering all that I have and cherish
- taking a good look at what I don’t want to lose and what I don’t want my future to be

A temporary, feel-good affair is just not worth it.
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