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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know this distinction will not mean much to many of you, but[b] this isn't "domestic violence[/b]" in terms of what the professionals working in the field consider domestic violence. Let me explain before you all cry foul.

Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive, controlling behavior, with specific intentions involved to achieve a desired impact. The impact is to instill fear, the intent is to control behavior. That's what we refer to as domestic violence. Not all violence that occurs in the home is "domestic violence." Some is defensive, some is reactionary, some is brought on by stress, etc.

At least what the OP is describing, and of course I wasn't' there, isn't "domestic violence." It's more like a reaction to stress, or in this case, being verbally abused and witnessing what amounts to emotional abuse of a child. By saying what he said, it sounds to me, he was intending to hurt the child. The child became a pawn in his own frustration.

Before you all jump on me, all violence accept defensive violence is wrong. I get that. But if there's any effort at controlling behavior, let's face it, it came from the husband. No, I'm not victim blaming. I don't think he's a victim. You don't say something like to a child about their mother, damaging a child and their perception of their mother, and still get to be a victim. He's as much to blame as she is, and yes, she's to blame for her reaction to what he did. But he's right in that game.[/quote]

Maybe.  But, it is a Battery and a criminal offense for which OP can be arrested and prosecuted.  [/quote]

I'm the PP and I agree. I was saying there's a distinction between what you describe and what people are referring to as domestic violence. And I also said it wasn't acceptable and yeah, she could be prosecuted. [/quote]

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