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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They’ve been here for almost an hour now.  I’m hungry.  I’m thirsty.  They didn’t tell us they were visiting.  I’m really annoyed.[/quote]

Grow up.  [/quote]

Found the rude, pushy in-law.[/quote]

DP here, and I'm not a pushy in-law of anyone yet. But seriously, why can't she just say, Hello! Great to see you. I'm exhausted and am going to grab something to eat then crash, but so happy you're getting to catch up with DH. They might then leave! As is, it is clear you don't want to see them, which is insulting and the fact it they are your DH's parents.

So, yes, grow up.[/quote]

Another DP here. I agree.  In OP's shoes, I would put in a robe, go down and greet them.  Announce that I am about to eat and ask them if they would like something to eat or drink? (This is just good manners, they would probably turn the offer down). I would then eat, drink, hang out if I wanted to, and then bid them goodnight and go up with the baby.  It is absolutely ok to tell them that you are going to lie down with the baby.

I fail to understand why this is a big deal? [b]Your ILs are like your parents and they are the parents of your spouse. Why do they need to stand on ceremony and be formal with you? [/b] They are not insisting that you greet them wearing formal clothes and serve them. Why are you so upset?[/quote]

Oh come on. Now, I think what OP is doing is fine, given how strung out she is, but also don't think her greeting them quickly and then "needing to lie down" would be a big deal either.

BUT, it is very rare to have as close of a relationship with your in-laws that you do with your parents. Your in-laws didn't change you when you were a baby, take you on field trips, deal with your obnoxious teenager years, etc. etc. It's just an entirely different ballgame.

Also, my in-laws are extremely formal people. If I came downstairs in my PJs/not ready to host, everyone would be uncomfortable. Me, them, my husband, baby.[/quote]

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