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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve worked in residential facilities and majority of the kids there were funded by school districts. Hire an advocate OP and see what your options are. I think it’s extra hard on those kids in residential without any families. At least the ones with parents got visited and to go home on occasion. Those without any parents were essentially raised by rotating strangers with almost no adults in their life for more than a couple years. They also suffered because they got very little money from the state each year for clothes and necessities. Parents can at least provide some comfort just by providing material items, it makes such a difference. At least explore all your options before taking such a drastic measure.[/quote]

+1 I would go into debt to hire a specialized nanny/full-time nurse before taking the kind of step OP is considering. This is so heartbreaking and OP I know you must be suffering to think about this option. I wish we had better, free support for families in this situation. Please take this poster seriously.[/quote]

To what end? Even if you take out a second mortgage for a full time nanny who can work with a special needs nanny, eventually that money runs out and OP is back in the same position. What if OP has other children?[/quote]

We do have other kids. That's much of the problem-- they've been suffering from the current situation, both physically and due to lack of attention.

We simply don't have the money to hire someone for an extended period of time, nor would we be able to get a loan to cover that.[/quote]
I think having other kids will make it more challenging to maintain custody of the other children while terminating your parental rights of one of them. [/quote]

and I would assume it would traumatize the other kids for their sibling to be sent away.[/quote]

The family bankrupting itself and neglecting them to care for their sibling is going to traumatize them too [/quote]

Right - so we agree that there is no good solutions here, just a bunch of crappy, bad solutions of which OP has to try and navigate what is "least bad" for all concerned.

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Dumping a profoundly disabled kid into foster care ain’t it. But I’m guessing [b]OP is indulging herself in a little fantasy to cope with a hard time[/b].[/quote]

And this is normal. When my child was in the worst stage, I remember daydreaming about getting divorced just so I could get a break. The idea of 50/50 custody sounded like a dream. I felt like a prisoner in my own house, constantly walking on eggshells and subjecting my other children to a terrible environment.

Until you’ve felt that level of despair, you need to shut up and stop judging other parents.

If you want to troll, go to general parenting and pick arguments about organic food or the right school district, but please leave the SN parents alone. We have enough to deal with. [/quote]

Bravo, +1000!
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