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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are shocked we are divorcing. Husband going through a textbook midlife crisis and sleeping with younger women. Completely out of character with the successful family man image he had for the last 14 years.[/quote]

I have a good friend who on the surface could be this man. But the truth is that he's still a good family man even while being extremely successful and prominent in his profession and in the community. He's showing his kids that it's healthy to pursue happiness rather than live in misery. But that's bound up with how the wife treats him. If his wife falls short and doesn't appreciate him then he has every right to pursue that happiness. As he pursues happiness, he will NEVER stop being the most loving father to his kids. He and the Mom don't need to live together to be the best parents possible, and sometimes they need to find happiness apart and live separately in order to parent at their best.

Yes, my friend has wound up with another woman and yes she's 25-30 years younger than him. But he was depressed after being married twenty years to a woman who had declined in so many ways and looked at him as an errand boy to cut down on her SAHM workload raising their two boys. It took the almost divine intervention of such a joyful, captivating and energetic young woman to show him that he DESERVES to be happy and has earned the right to respect for all that he's accomplished and is achieving and earning.

So at face value yes, it's a "midlife crisis". But if you know him, and you know the ex, and you met his GF, you would understand why he needed to cut the cord. He and the kids are so much happier for him doing so.[/quote]

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