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[quote=Anonymous]Just from what I’ve observed with my own teenagers, and those of their friends, I have a few thoughts.

He needs a gateway friend. It’s a certain type of kid. A kid who is very extroverted and looking for lots of friends, someone who may be slightly annoying to others but usually aggressive about making connections, and gets turned down a lot. Let me tell you this is the friend to make bc they will connect your kid to lots of new people. I have a reserved daughter but she has had several versions of this friend over the years and makes other friends through them constantly. Try to steer his rare social requests towards kids like this even if he also finds them a bit annoying.

He may be trying to connect with kids who aren’t in his social standing. I know it’s incredibly stupid, but it’s the reality of high school. Trying to hang out with kids either too cool or too nerdy usually doesn’t pan out. They are too insecure of going outside their boxes at this age - it won’t matter in college luckily.

Most teenage boys unless they have a niche hobby are into one or more of these things and that’s what they connect on: sports, online gaming, partying or dating/rizzing up girls. Sounds like probably only sports is where he can connect so following big teams is probably a good idea - trying to get in on a fantasy league at school is an idea.

Not having social media is probably a mistake at least for the purpose of friendships. Many teens make initial casual connections to classmates through Snapchat, they can text and become more familiar before they reach out for in person hang outs. They have a presence, become a known person in the social scene at school, it leads to being considered during invites. I hate social media too and understand it’s pitfalls but it’s been the bridge to new friendships for my daughter and her friends, being truthful. Having no friends isn’t healthy either so something to consider. 
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