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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What exactly do that you are not proud of? In what way did you "eff up"? Clearly there was more than suicidal thoughts. The details might matter here.[/quote]

No I just had gap years into my early twenties. Where I wasn’t studying or working. Roughest time mentally for me.
The point is maybe I overshared but I was surprised at the judgment and harshness and no defense. Which maybe is asking for much[/quote]

Ok well the language you used that you were clearly a screw up, no role model, effed up life, make it sound like you were really up to no good. Which is why it still makes it seem likely that she was just joking about "bad egg" and maybe there was a wink in there you may have missed. Because you didn't describe anything bad. Do you often have trouble reading people? Maybe you need to change how you describe these years and tone it down.

Such as "I was lost for awhile but then found my footing and now things are great." Your language makes it sound so much more extreme.[/quote]

Part of the issue is that OP sounds like an extremely unreliable narrator. I’m sure her perceptions and feelings are genuine and I empathize with overcoming struggles. But I very much doubt that we would hear this same story from one of the other brunch attendees. [/quote]

Also, don't pester people to share intimate details about themselves when they don't really know you. Some people are very private. Asking them if they have regrets, or ever messed up, or even the way you put it "have you never struggled" can come across as aggressive and prying and make the other person very uncomfortable. [/quote]

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