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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is why I currently make about $30k less than I should. The flexibility my job allows is crazy wonderful. Not to mention 4 weeks sick/personal and unlimited vacation. Plus flexible hours. [b]DH is a Fed and a much more rigid schedule, but makes much more than me.[/b] It works for us.

Just assume you'll be missing a bunch of school related activities. Also since your kid is starting K be ready for a year of illnesses. Even if your kid went to daycare/preschool, it's a whole new set of germs in elementary.

I'd definitely consider finding a new job that gives you more PTO, some work flexibility, etc. Or have a chat with your manager in the very least. [/quote]

I’m a fed (female GS 15) as well and stayed in government specifically because of the relative flexibility it has provided in allowing me to take time off for childcare/events. Funnily (or not) my female counterparts all tend to be the default/primary parent and manage to juggle career demands and advancement with family needs, whereas my male counterparts at the same level all seem to have wives who handle the brunt of childcare.  I’m fairly confident most have convinced their wives that their schedules are far more rigid and demanding than is truly the case.[/quote]

Curious how you finesse this?  I'm a male GS15 but my DW actually has a BigLaw job so I'm much more of the default parent (though she still steps in because there are times when the mom is expected and we are tired of going against the grain).

But as the spouse who takes the kids to appointments, stays home when sick, etc etc, I do get a lot of the feeling that my coworkers who are the breadwinner spouse with a preschool teacher wife, they wonder why I'm "not pulling my weight" by not leaving it to my wife.[/quote]

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