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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Any thoughts about friend A, who organized the dinner and then urged B to talk to me? I suppose they talked about me behind my back and cooked up this plan to confront me. I have other friends who talk plainly and tell me right away if there's an issue, thankfully.[/quote]

Unlike PP who thinks A is a pot stirrer, I like to give folks the benefit of the doubt. It's obvious B told A how she felt about your comments - doesn't mean they were "talking about you behind your back" though. It could be that B told A how she felt and A encouraged her to talk to you rather than let it fester, etc. Could be innocent. I'd take a step back and look at the complete person before making assumptions.

You could always reach out to A and simply ask and say that you were uncomfortable because you felt ganged up on or something to that effect. Keep it classy and don't "talk about B" but rather from a stance of you trying to understand the dynamic and you can be honest and say that you're evaluating the newish relationship(s).[/quote]

Maybe at the next dinner A can nudge OP to confront B about how the previous confrontation made her feel. Then the cycle will continue. Yet somehow A gets to be the one in the middle of it all, the eye of the storm, as B and OP keep coming after each other. A is definitely a trouble maker who probably sits back rejoicing in all the drama she creates. She could simply have just asked B to talk to OP on her own to hash it out. Not make it a group exercise. I would just say "leave me out of it" and not insert myself if I was A, there are other ways.[/quote]

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