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[quote=Anonymous]We don't have family help. I have an 8 and 6 year old. I've been away from my kids overnight 3 times: an out of town wedding I was gone 2 days/2 nights when he was 2 years old; when my nephew was born and I went to visit my brother and SIL also gone 2 days/2 nights when my son was 4 years old and my daughter was 2; and another out of town wedding I went to solo for 2 days/2 nights when the kids were 5 and 3. Each time my spouse stayed home and took care of the kids. My spouse and I have never had an overnight or weekend alone together since the kids were born. My parents live far away and visit us 2-3x per year but have never offered to babysit at all. I think if we had an emergency or some type of situation where we really needed help, they would come and take care of the kids. But they are not the type of grandparents who want to be babysitting the kids so we wouldn't ask them to unless we really needed the help. My in-laws live closer but they are not able to babysit because my MIL has dementia and FIL is her full time caregiver so we'd never ask them.

It is what it is. It is too bad. It's hard to see others around you dropping their kids off at the grandparents' house for sleepovers or going on trips and having the grandparents stay w/ the kids or having someone local to call on in emergency situations. I wish we had that. But at the same time, I know every family has its problems. My next door neighbors have local grandparents who help them out w/ their kids a lot and I once commented how nice that must be and they kind of rolled their eyes and indicated that it wasn't so perfect since the grandparents are a little too enmeshed in their lives and they wish they had some space. The grass is always greener...[/quote]

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