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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There’s a lot of room in between a highly stressful or competitive job and a fast food job. I sometimes think that’s hard to see for people with a type A mindset, because they think anything lower than the top is a failure. Your son already seems wise enough to realize he doesn’t want the stressful career that your husband has. He wants more balance in life and that’s fine. Smart even. Guide him towards finding a rewarding career that suits his personality.[/quote]

Even as a recent college grad, some kids see things differently.  My one kid is 2 years into first real job.  They put in their 40 hours/week and the extra 5-8 hours/week as needed.  But they don't see the purpose behind working 60-80 hour weeks "to get ahead".  Sure the person who has put in the 70-80 hours got a 15% raise, my kid got a 10% raise (there were kids who got only 5-6%), so in perspective my kid feels they have a life outside work and the "striver" may be the top employee and earning a slight bit more, but has no life outside of work and might burn out in a few years.  My kid can pay the bills and support themselves, but knows we are always around to help.  They want to enjoy their weekends and evenings and who can fault them for that?  They are still doing well, got a good raise (many places did not give any raises this year) and excellent reviews on the job.  They have always been a happy go lucky type of person and not a "go getter", so I have tried to learn to just accept that and be happy with it.. Very different than my partner or myself who have been type A go getters/striver/excel at most things.  
So they might not be making $160K at age 30, but they will be an excellent employee, have a great job, and they live in a MCOL area so can live extremely well on what they make/will make.  
Most importantly, they are happy and forging their own path.  [/quote]

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