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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. No it is not about vaccines! Look, here it is since people are now thinking maybe they offended their own friends. She's in DC so could read this, but I guess, I don't really care obviously.

She posted a link about a babies dying in childbirth. And wrote: "if you have a natural birth, especially out-of-hospital, and your baby dies, it is YOUR fault. You basically killed your baby or caused whatever problems it has. Have fun living with that just because you wanted it to be all about you. Selfish"

We had a midwife attended birth at a birthing center with a hospital back up / transfer option in case things went wrong, which they didn't. We are very confident about the decision and it's NOT that I can't handle conversation about it or even criticism. I asked what I thought was a valid question about how to handle in real life the fact that I was offended by something someone said on person.

Whether or not she was aiming this at me? I don't know. I know she knows where we had our daughter because she asked me if I liked my OB / hospital and I replied that we had DD in a birthing center and she didn't really say anything.

I personally think there are rude people who are rude again and again because nobody ever calls them out on it! Her friend who confronted her on her facebook page made her look really stupid, so maybe that will make her think twice before posting something so harsh again. Especially something she doesn't really understand. It's fine to just say you don't agree with something, but don't sit there and say you're at fault for a baby's death for any type of natural birth! Besides rude, that's crazy! Anyway, over it, and thanks for the feedback. [/quote]

Okay, here's the way to be an adult in our very contentious society.  Own your decisions, be proud of them, back them with your facts and reasoning and be willing to admit you're wrong IF you change your mind.

You made a choice that was a minority choice in this country in an area that is controversial.  You know that there are people with strong opinions on this topic.  If you are going to be offended by everyone who feels strongly that you made a poor choice, then you will find yourself very defensive very often.  You need to grow a thicker skin, stand up for your belief that you did the right thing for your family and your child and that anyone who feels differently doesn't have any influence on your parenting style and choices.

There are many issues that people face every day akin to this.  If you are homosexual or favor marriage equality.  If you are Catholic (there is just as much Catholic bashing these days as natural birth bashing and I'm not even Catholic!), you are in for a lot of criticism.  If you are pro-labor and on and on.  We've become a very vocally contentious and verbally abrasive society.  Learn to live with your decisions, and let others live with theirs.  And go on and continue to believe that you are doing the right and best things for your family.  And everyone can do the same for theirs.[/quote]

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