Anonymous wrote:OP here. No it is not about vaccines! Look, here it is since people are now thinking maybe they offended their own friends. She's in DC so could read this, but I guess, I don't really care obviously.

She posted a link about a babies dying in childbirth. And wrote: "if you have a natural birth, especially out-of-hospital, and your baby dies, it is YOUR fault. You basically killed your baby or caused whatever problems it has. Have fun living with that just because you wanted it to be all about you. Selfish"

We had a midwife attended birth at a birthing center with a hospital back up / transfer option in case things went wrong, which they didn't. We are very confident about the decision and it's NOT that I can't handle conversation about it or even criticism. I asked what I thought was a valid question about how to handle in real life the fact that I was offended by something someone said on person.

Whether or not she was aiming this at me? I don't know. I know she knows where we had our daughter because she asked me if I liked my OB / hospital and I replied that we had DD in a birthing center and she didn't really say anything.

I personally think there are rude people who are rude again and again because nobody ever calls them out on it! Her friend who confronted her on her facebook page made her look really stupid, so maybe that will make her think twice before posting something so harsh again. Especially something she doesn't really understand. It's fine to just say you don't agree with something, but don't sit there and say you're at fault for a baby's death for any type of natural birth! Besides rude, that's crazy! Anyway, over it, and thanks for the feedback.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No it is not about vaccines! Look, here it is since people are now thinking maybe they offended their own friends. She's in DC so could read this, but I guess, I don't really care obviously.

She posted a link about a babies dying in childbirth. And wrote: "if you have a natural birth, especially out-of-hospital, and your baby dies, it is YOUR fault. You basically killed your baby or caused whatever problems it has. Have fun living with that just because you wanted it to be all about you. Selfish"

We had a midwife attended birth at a birthing center with a hospital back up / transfer option in case things went wrong, which they didn't. We are very confident about the decision and it's NOT that I can't handle conversation about it or even criticism. I asked what I thought was a valid question about how to handle in real life the fact that I was offended by something someone said on person.

Whether or not she was aiming this at me? I don't know. I know she knows where we had our daughter because she asked me if I liked my OB / hospital and I replied that we had DD in a birthing center and she didn't really say anything.

I personally think there are rude people who are rude again and again because nobody ever calls them out on it! Her friend who confronted her on her facebook page made her look really stupid, so maybe that will make her think twice before posting something so harsh again. Especially something she doesn't really understand. It's fine to just say you don't agree with something, but don't sit there and say you're at fault for a baby's death for any type of natural birth! Besides rude, that's crazy! Anyway, over it, and thanks for the feedback.

Anonymous wrote:I am considering blocking all the Jesus-y people on fb. "Little Anne-Marie spit up so many times today. Thanking God for his bountiful blessings!" Really? And then grandma and the aunts chime in with, "Praying for Anne-Marie!" "In his divine mercy, you are a part of His plan!" "Loving Jesus for giving us our niece!" Anne-Marie is a perfectly healthy baby who happened to barf a bunch that day. I don't know why it rubs me the wrong way, but it does.

So do the politics people -- whether I agree or disagree. My husband gets worked up over the liberal posts of a family friend. My dad gets worked up over the liberal posts of a family member. I am on perpetual eye roll over the conservative posts of a member of a moms group I belonged to for a while. I remain silent.

I think it is natural to have the reaction you are having and I can't tell how old your kid(s) is/are, but I am guessing they are younger. Honestly, blow it off. Who gives a crap what her opinion is? Who gives a crap if she is judging you? All of the people who judged me in those early days for my decisions can't argue with my now 10 year old who is thriving.

Anonymous wrote:You could have really taken the higher road. Something along the lines of, "I agree that babies' safety needs to be the #1 priority. After a lot of research and planning, we decided to have an attended birth at a birth center, with a transfer to a hospital if necessary. It's a terrific, safe option for people who for whatever reason aren't comfortable with a hospital birth."

Before I had kids , I wasn't aware of alternatives to delivering at a hospital (other than doing it at home, unattended). Why waste an opportunity to kindly educate people about your experiences? (I had a medicated hospital birth btw)

Anonymous wrote:OP. So let me understand how this works. You go onto FB and accept a neighbor as a "friend", having no knowledge of her background or thoughts. Then you get upset that she voices her opinion and you think it is directed at you?

Are you a 14 year old?