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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I actually saw the host mom at the grocery store this morning.  We chatted briefly (she was coming out as I was going in) and only really said something like hello, how are you.

I think I am reaching the conclusion that I am not considered a full member of the neighborhood group as I thought I was - at least not by this mom.  I think she sees me as someone who shows up and is there, and therefore of course she'll make conversation with me, but she doesn't see me as a friend (and I guess she sees the others as friends).  Maybe I come across as trying too hard?  It's funny, because out of all of the moms in the group, i feel like she and I might have the most in common because we are both really into athletics, and played the same sport in college.

Anyway, thanks for the posts everyone.[/quote]

This is interesting. In our neighborhood moms group I though this one mom would be my best friend. We initially connected well and we had a lot in common. Hung out a lot together and with others, our children all got along. Then she started getting funny and playing this exclusion game.  She would talk about what her and the other mom's did together and I just listened thinking why was she telling me this and I wasn't even invited. Does she not think this would hurt my feelings? She is now nothing like she was when I met her. On some days she barely speaks to me when we are all at the playground.

I have thought relentlessly about what I could have done to upset her, but I just can't come up with anything. Oh, well.
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This happened to me when I first moved into this neighborhood. Previously, I had lived in an apartment with our first baby. The "friend" had really been a bestie who you call a couple of times a week and hang out with every week or every other week. When I was pregnant with my second child we moved to our current neighborhood which is adjacent to hers but with overall cheaper yet incredibly overpriced homes. This woman literally stopped talking to me after I told her we moved into the house. She called me a few days before we moved and asked for a tour--I gave her one--iwe both live in 20016. Her house is a mansion compared to mine.[b] The weirdest part is that she became BEST FRIENDS suddenly with our across the street neighbor. [/b] She knew her before but it was not a close relationship--I knew this because this woman and I hung out together several days a week for at least 2 years. The same year that we bought the house, our oldest was admitted into the tony littlee pre-k that her son attended. Mine went there b/c  of his special needs but the chool is sought after by others just for whatever prestige. That seemed to push her over the edge and she never really spoke to me even when our boys were at pre-k together. [b]But she was constantly on my street highly visible at our across the street neighbor visiting hanging out playing, etc.[/b] This was @6 years ago but it stung like hell and still sort of does. I've never really felt like I wanted to get close to another mom because of it. I know that seems like an overreaction but I feel like her attitude of running hot then cold with people is a way of life for some Washington women and I can't take it.
[b]TL;dr sorry to hijack, but yeah, rack your brain trying to figure out why someone dropped you like a stone--and you know you didn't do anything wrong--it really hurts.[/b][/quote]

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