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If you like your cousin so well you wanted to visit her at all, [i]why do you now NOT like her so much that you aren't even concerned she might actually be sick?[/i]

Do you see how you are making this 100 percent about you, your feelings, your plans, your grandkids, when maybe it shouldn't be All About You? Did you even express concern to her or have you followed up to ask how she's feeling? With no further discussion of your trip/grandkids? I'm betting not.

You also overstepped in a huge way. Yes, you asked her instead of telling her the grandkids (plural! Good grief!) would come. And while she should have had the spine to tell you, "Sally, I can't accommodate you plus the grandkids, so sorry, I can host you but not them" -- that would have been ideal but I wonder if she heard in your tone or words that you expected her to say yes? Maybe she's afraid of saying no to you, so she said she was sick instead. If someone is afraid of saying no to you, it's time to look at yourself -- not at them.

Apologize to her because you were in the wrong. She should have handled it better but that really is not on her--many people get tongue-tied and scared when they have to say no to oversteppers. [/quote]

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