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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Team Cousin. Why would you do that?!?! The fault is yours. Call her and apologize. What were you thinking?[/quote]

It was an ask, not a summons. OPs cousin could have said "no we don't have the room" or "we can't accommodate them too" and just proceeded with the original plans. That's what an adult would have done, vs. a petulant child, which is apparently OPs cousin.[/quote]

It was a rude thing to ask.  Maybe the cousin found it rude and off putting and decided they didn’t want a visit from someone rude. [/quote]

JFC. It was not rude to ask. [b]It's rarely rude to ask.[/b] And certainly not something like this. If she announced "Sue is coming on the visit with me" or showed up with extra people . . . THAT is rude.

GMAB with you judgmental, uptight types. [/quote]

It's almost always rude to ask, and the people who ask, often prefacing it with "It's fine if you say no," generally don't take no for an answer.[/quote]

True. They will say "it's no big deal to refuse, grow up!" But if you refuse they'll say "how hard is it to wash a couple of extra towels and bring out two pillows? there's no reason to refuse, grow up!" Pushy people are pushy and cannot accept others' limitations. It sounds like cousin made a mental health call to not add on all that stress of grocery planning and socializing with two last minute people. 
I am welcoming but I have the resources to help me. If I had to accommodate more with a smaller budget and home, I'd refuse too. Some people love to pile in the people on the living room floor and scrape together and share which is lovely for them but stressful and uncomfortable for me.[/quote]

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