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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm really starting to struggle with working a full time demanding job with a younger elementary schooler. My husband works a ton in an also demanding job. My job is as flexible as I could hope for in an industry that is notoriously inflexible, but it is not WFH, I have a commute, it's still more than 40 hours a week, dealing with external clients that have no boundaries in regards to my time. Our DC is very busy in activities, likes being busy and keeps asking for more. We have activities 4x a week. Two of those days are a short time commitment (45 min-hour) and the other 2 days are 3-4 hours each[b]. Please don't comment that DC is overscheduled, this is how DC likes it.[/b] It's me that struggles... we are on the go constantly. There's never enough time to keep up with basic housework. We outsource cleaning 2x/mo. I do online grocery ordering, but basic things like putting clothes away after being washed are just completely neglected. Also, I used to be great at staying on top of everything and I'm just not anymore, despite it being in my calendar, I'm still missing things.

DH and I used to divide things more equally, but his job is more demanding and pays more than mine, so it's started shifting more to me. I am most definitely the primary parent. But my job is not an easy job. It requires a lot of critical thinking and management of projects, clients and employees. I just feel like something has to give. DC's childhood is flying by in a blur and I'm just stressed and tired 98% of the time.

Any advice?[/quote]

But she's small. [b]Honestly, her vote doesn't count here. Whatever her reality is, she will adjust and be happy with it. [/b]Also, sitting at home being bored in and of itself is an important thing to learn to do.

Also, teaching kids (and spouses) to pick up after themselves and stay organized IS and activity in and of itself and is a skill one needs to learn. It takes time. Lose a kid activity now, use that time to teach/implement daily chores and tidying means she learns how to do it without complaint and as part of a routine. Then, once she's got it down without it being an ordeal, you can likely use that time for more activities later as her daily chores won't take long and you will have more capacity to do more outside the house. Consider this as a life skill she needs to learn. [/quote]
This. Your child’s activities don’t take priority over a parent’s needs. At this point in life OP you need more downtime. 4 nights a week on the go for child activities, while balancing a stressful job and household, isn’t a necessity. Activities need to be cut back to 1x a week.[/quote]

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