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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in an UMC family, private education, elite colleges, and yes, I worked extremely hard for what I have now.

Why are you bothered by it?

I can also tell you, from watching my peers grow up, regardless of background those who worked the hardest also got the most out of life. I can also tell, from my professional background, the amount of work people put into their career has a direct relationship with their successes.

Life is not and will never be fair. It's not fair some people seem to suffer more easily from addiction. It's not fair some families have terrible abuse problems. It's not fair to be born to limited circumstances without ingrained knowledge how to make the most out of your decisions. It's not fair to born with limited aptitude. But what does it have to do with other people's successes and accomplishments? Why should I be blamed for it, somehow, or be told to check my privilege? Such a thing is actually distinctly unfair.

The sooner you realize this and stop making judgments and blaming others and making peace with your own situation, the better off you will be. It is not really my problem other people are not successful nor more than it is a problem there are others much more financially successful than I am. Broadly speaking, most people end up with an outcome that does largely correspond with the actions of their decisions and their capabilties. [b]No one is not a senior vice president at a major corporation because of institutional racism or structural dysfunctionalism in whatever. [/b][i][u]We just have a culture of grievance that has too many people thinking somehow they are oppressed and their failures are can be blamed on others. [/quote]

See, if you had said "No one is a senior vice president of a major corporation without working extremely hard" you would have had a point.  Instead... you just clearly showed your complete lack of perspective and understanding of where you started in life.
Because yes - there are absolutely people who have worked at least as hard as you have, and who are at least as smart as you are, but weren't given nearly the opportunities you've had due to institutional racism, structural dysfunction, and just pure luck of the draw of life.[/quote]

I deliberately wrote the bolded part because I knew it would raise the most hackles. I did want to see how I would be judged by it.

I stand by what I wrote. Advancement is a complicated thing for people who don't understand what it takes to advance. Some people like to think it's all due to cronyism. Sure, there's those. But for most employers and most circumstances it comes down to the ability to perform and deliver and to take advantages of what you have at hand along with ability to work with others and manage others. Some people are simply much better at it than others and there's only so much it can be artificially distorted in the name of achieving the ideal demographic blend. Companies are not charities or they'd all go bankrupt.

Nothing that has been said in the various attempts at rebuttal convinces me of the merits of their arguments, it's more of the same woe life is unfair but still taking a selective and one-sided perspective at why life is unfair. The OP started the thread criticizing people for working hard. What does being on third base, whatever that means, have to do with it? People still work extremely hard in the upper ranks of the professions and management. Meanwhile, many people at the bottom end of society really don't work at all. At all. We currently have one of the lowest participation in the labor forces among able bodied adults in the history of the United States, which is rather telling. But we also have a society where plenty of people come from nothing and end up with success while plenty of those "born on third base" fizzle out into mediocrity because they just didn't have good work ethic or dedication.

I am all for being understanding and considerate, but that is separate from OP's theme, which is that people who work hard still need to check their privilege.

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