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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]What some of you are missing is that when someone says "But I worked hard for what I have" they are almost always saying it defensively because they have been criticized ([/b]or they have detected criticism where there might not have been any). Which is also why it's annoying. It's a sign of insecurity. If these people felt more secure in themselves, they wouldn't struggle to acknowledge that they had advantages in life that helped them get where they are. The only reason they are saying "but I worked so hard" is because they are actively trying to distract or paper over their advantages.

People who say this know they are privileged but would prefer you not know because they worry it will make you think less of them. But the best way to handle that situation is just to own it. "Yes, I got a huge leg up because of my family's money and connections, I realize that. I've always tried to make the most of those opportunities though, because I know not everyone gets them." That's grace and confidence. Trying to convince someone that your success is solely due to your work ethic when you were born to wealth and sent to the best schools and had high level connections into your field of choice should be embarrassing to you. Just own who you are and don't be defensive. It actually invites MORE criticism, not less.[/quote]

Or, they are irritated (or defensive) because they are being criticized for something that they had nothing to do with.  [/quote]

Read the rest of the post. The answer is not to get defensive and say "but I worked hard." Lots of people work hard.

Just own it. "Yes, I had help from my parents, I'm very grateful." Own the fact that you didn't have anything to do with the advantages you were given. Don't try to pretend the advantages don't exist and that actually, your success is entirely predicated on how hard you worked.

If you really can't stand the idea of peopel thinking that a lot of your success was due to your parents money and connections, when in fact a lot of your success is due to your parents money and connections, then give up that money and those connections instead. Then you never have to feel put upon by this accusation.

Alternatively, just own up to it, don't apologize (it's just how it is, life isn't always fair) and then move on. Going through life with a chip on your shoulder over this is going to make people dislike you because no one feels sorry for someone who has had every advantage in life. It's the one advantage you don't get -- random people feeling sorry for you. Get over it.  Use the money you inherited to pay for some therapy or self-care. It'll work out.[/quote]

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