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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in an UMC family, private education, elite colleges, and yes, I worked extremely hard for what I have now.

Why are you bothered by it?

I can also tell you, from watching my peers grow up, regardless of background those who worked the hardest also got the most out of life. I can also tell, from my professional background, the amount of work people put into their career has a direct relationship with their successes.

Life is not and will never be fair. It's not fair some people seem to suffer more easily from addiction. It's not fair some families have terrible abuse problems. It's not fair to be born to limited circumstances without ingrained knowledge how to make the most out of your decisions. It's not fair to born with limited aptitude. But what does it have to do with other people's successes and accomplishments? Why should I be blamed for it, somehow, or be told to check my privilege? Such a thing is actually distinctly unfair.

The sooner you realize this and stop making judgments and blaming others and making peace with your own situation, the better off you will be. It is not really my problem other people are not successful nor more than it is a problem there are others much more financially successful than I am. Broadly speaking, most people end up with an outcome that does largely correspond with the actions of their decisions and their capabilties. No one is not a senior vice president at a major corporation because of institutional racism or structural dysfunctionalism in whatever. We just have a culture of grievance that has too many people thinking somehow they are oppressed and their failures are can be blamed on others. [/quote]

Just don't lie about where your down payment came from, ok?[/quote]

Who do you hang out with where people discuss where they got the downpayment for their home?!?!?!

I'm in my 50s and have never had that conversation with any of our friends.  That would just be weird and annoying.  Who cares?  [/quote]

This is a good point. Most people are not focused in that way about others. I've never felt frustration with someone else's finances or how they present them. 
I wonder if op is expecting others to freely disclose their finances or of they're directly asking for the info[/quote]

To be fair if you're in your 50s you probably were buying homes before social media and the urge to justify and show off your purchases. A lot of this transparency is a gift/ill of social media.[/quote]

We've bought 3 homes in the last 7 years.  Yes, I post photos on Social media because it's our new home and our friends/family like to see that--we moved cross country and it's a way to stay connected to friends in the old location.  I watch the nieces/nephews/2nd cousins (or whatever my cousins kids would be called) grow up, start families, buy their first home with partners, watch friends kids post their "new home" photos and yet it's never occurred for me to even wonder---How did they buy such a nice house?  Who cares?   It's not my business, unless they are asking me for money to help buy the house or to help them pay the bills.

Basically, when I see Social media posts, I don't automatically think "wow, how can they afford that". Because it's not really any of my business. People on my social media are my friends, family and colleagues that are friends.  So I'm just happy for someone who buys a new home, boat, car, etc.

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