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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think OP has kids and maybe her friends don’t yet. She’s 31. I remember that phase where the people with kids were living a very different life than friends who were still single or married with no kids. OP, it gets better as some of this stuff shakes out a bit in one direction or another for everyone over the next few years. In the meantime, people love to talk about themselves! Ask about their summer plans, book recommendations, if they have found any great new life hacks, whether their office environment is toxic, etc.[/quote]

OP here and yes, I forgot that detail. My friends do not have kids, and I have three children from 1 year old to 8 years old. I do like the idea of asking about what they have going on. I just feel like they all have discussions about travel, shows, interests, etc., and I’m like a deer in headlights with nothing to add. [/quote]

You’re 31 with an 8 year old! You got pregnant at 22! You didn’t take the time to develop as an adult before having kids. You didn’t take time to develop a career and have savings to afford trips and such. This is the choice you made for your life. [/quote]

Wow, so mean! Her youngest will be headed off to college (potentially) when she’s 48 and she’ll still be young enough to do everything she could possibly want! She has plenty of life ahead of her. Develop as an adult? I’d argue that raising 3 kids at 31 is a whole lot more adulting and responsibility than you had at that age. [/quote]

It’s not mean, it’s fact. And at 22 the human brain hadn’t even fully developed. She never took the time to see who she was as an adult! It’s not responsible to have a kid young. [/quote]

Are you suggesting to unbirth the kids?

My parents had me 20, while in college. They had my siblings by 30. They both went on to get their PhDs and careers in academia. We did a lot of things as a family (e.g., museums, and hikes). They also became empty nesters early: my mom is learning to play piano, and my dad returned to the sport that he left when I was born. They also have more money now, so they finally get to travel and explore. If anything, they are not dull people without hobbies. Btw, we turned out OK too. [/quote]

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