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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds fake and forced [/quote]

When DH makes grilled cheese, salad and tomato soup for me and the kids, I do not lavish him with praise as if he is a Voltaggio brother gracing me with a five-course tasting menu. But hey, he got home first, he helped the kids with homework, and I get to roll in the house and sit down to dinner. I appreciate that. I say thank you.

I honestly think it might take more effort for me to not thank something than to acknowledge what they did for me.[/quote]

So you say thanks for dinner, thanks for being home for the kids, thanks for helping with homework?[/quote]

Every single day, every single time? No. In that scenario, I would definitely say thanks for the dinner. But I would say we thank each other at least 80-90% of the time for routine chores, and always for dinner.

For example, my husband is working late tonight. He knows I will be doing pickup, dinner, homework, and bedtime with the kids. When I reminded them to give him extra hugs because they will be asleep when he gets home tonight, he said, "Thank you for taking care of everything tonight." Last night, I thanked him for carrying three loads of laundry from the basement up to our bedroom. Gratitude is a good habit that we have.

I mean, you can keep arguing with me about it, but yeah. That's how it is in our marriage. And it won't change just because you're trying to poke holes.  :lol: [/quote]

You sound super defensive… wild.

I’m not arguing just wondering… but yea I dont need that much validation and it’s also okay that you do.[/quote]

Awwww, you've been raised to think that simple gratitude, manners and politeness are seeking and giving "validation." It's OK. We can't choose how well we were raised. [/quote]

Imagine this I have a different love language … your’s is word of affirmation, mine is not… and you need Xanax.[/quote]

I answered the OP's question. You tried to poke and prod and get more out of me to try to make it seem that somehow, my husband and I showing basic politeness and gratitude to one another is forced or absurd or what have you. Clearly you are the defensive one, who is realizing what a jerk you are for not saying thank you to your own spouse once in a while. Have a great day.

And by the way, it's "yours" not "your's".[/quote]

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