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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.[/quote]

Why?[/quote]

Because gratitude and acknowledgment are good building blocks of love, respect and connection? Are you OK?[/quote]

Diluted gratitude are the opposite of love and respect.[/quote]

I had an ex-boyfriend who made this argument. He said that he didn't like to say he loved me, or give me compliments or gratitude, "too often" because it would dilute the impact. Like he thought if he told me I looked nice most days, then I wouldn't understand the compliment if he told me I looked particularly good on another day. Or if he said "I love you" everyday, it would just become reflex and lose meaning.

That relationship didn't work out, and now I'm married to someone who says he loves me multiple times a day, tells me I look nice several times a week, and says thank you almost anytime I do something that benefits him (thanks for cooking, thanks for taking the trash out, thanks for gassing up the car, thanks for booking those flights, thanks for staying home with DD when she was sick, thanks for making sure the dog got his shots, etc.).

It's so much better this way, and I never take my DH's love or gratitude for granted. The opposite. Because we are both vocal with each other about how we feel and in appreciating one another, we are both more aware on a daily basis of the value of our relationship and how we'd rather be together than apart. I can't imagine going back to a situation where my partner doles out compliments and gratitude stingily, like it's a finite resource he doesn't want to waste. So strange and sad.

Gratitude is free. The more you practice it, the more you have.[/quote]

Sorry you had an abusive relationship.

Science disagrees. If you don’t really mean it there is a negative affect. Nobody is saying no gratitude daily there is just no need to express gratitude or compliment when it’s not sincere.

Your really comparing two extremes instead of normal family gratitude.[/quote]

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