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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here--I don't want the bully to get hurt physically, that's not what I meant. But what if the bully is a girl who spreads rumors and lies about another girl (not my kids' situation), would at some point the bully's friends realize that this person could turn and do the same thing to them at any second, and choose to stop hanging out with her. Or, like a pp said, people confront her about it so she doesn't just get away Scot free. I don't want them to get bullied. I want them to have consequences for their bullying. I said it wrong in my original post. [/quote]

I am still not understanding why you would care though. And ultimately I’d just wish all kids well and hope they have a nice life.

bullies are insecure or threatened in some way and so it’s best to just remember that and let go.[/quote]

Op again. Has your kid been bullied? Not just some kid teasing them here and there, but actual bullying? I think then you would understand why it's harder to let go. But I will take your suggestion anyway and do my best to let go. But it is hard when someone is deliberately making your kid miserable :([/quote]

I get it. And for the record I would fully support you addressing the bullying with school or other parents or whatever, with the priority being that your kid deserves a safe space. Bullying sucks. My point is just that the instinct to see someone put in their place is misplaced, and I don’t think it’s ultimately going to be productive for you to generate a lot of negative energy here. I also see kids weather the bullying better when their parents model the high road - it helps the kid feel like ok, there is a way to handle this, and I can get through this.

It is torture to see your kid deal with this kind of thing, that’s for sure. It is normal and fine to be angry. I think it is just unfortunate to let anger make you bitter or petty and that is why I am being insistent. [/quote]

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